- Sex & Drugs
- 10 Jun 04
News and views from around the world, stimulation for eyes and ears, Sexton's Miscellany plus this week's Top Sex Tip...
Same-Sex Couples Rush to the Altar
On Monday, May 17 at midnight, Massachusetts became the first US state to allow same-sex couples to legally wed. Around 5,000 people showed up to witness the historic event and more than 1,000 same-sex couple sought applications for marriage licences on the first day. The state’s high court ruled last year that the rights of same-sex couples are protected under the state’s constitution.
Mixed Reaction to 9 Songs
9 Songs, the most sexually explicit film in the history of British cinema was premiered at the Cannes Film festival on May 17. The film, directed by Michael Winterbottom (24 Hour Party People), consists almost entirely of real sex, including oral sex. Defending the film, Winterbottom says that part of his purpose was to say ‘What’s wrong with sex?’ and to explore an intimate relationship through its sexual nature. Reaction has been mixed, with reviewers either praising the film, labelling it offensive or even unerotic. There is a good chance that 9 Songs will receive an 18 certificate in Britain – no doubt we’ll get to see it here and judge for ourselves.
You’re not leaving the house looking like that!
Derrick Shepherd of the Louisiana House of Representatives has filed a bill that would make low-slung pants illegal. The lovely Mr Shepherd wants a ban on all clothes that “intentionally expose undergarments… any portion of pubic hair, cleft, buttocks or genitals.”
Stimulation for Eyes and Ears
Web
If there is one thing the female of the species understands it’s dressing appropriately for the occasion. So I was most enamoured to discover that some really choice lingerie can be bought through Irish suppliers on the Net. For those of you on a budget (and that’s most of us), check out www.lingerie-ireland.com They have some great looking corsets at reasonable prices, plus a large selection of really sexy thongs, including several pearl ones. For something very special have a squizz at www.intimate.linger.ie They have a huge range of exquisite underwear, but certain items (unfortunately all the ones I wanted!) are a bit on the pricey side. Be very nice to your boyfriend….
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Books
Brown Skin Books is the UK’s only publisher of erotic fiction written by black women. Their latest release, Scandalous, by Angela Campion is based on the life and exploits of the legendary Josephine Baker. Although Baker was famed for her sexual appetite, and her erotic adventures with glamorous and powerful men, this book is not biographical. The story is part erotica and part thriller and is a fictional account of Baker’s encounter with a journalist, who fulfils her every sensual need and dredges up a past best left buried. Available through Amazon.com, Amazon.uk and on order for €11.80 at www.buy4now.ie/Eason
This issue’s Top Sex Tip:
Women can sometimes be a bit iffy about giving blowjobs. To an extent, this reluctance stems from the fear of getting it wrong. Here’s some hints that will help.
1. Really like the penis that you’re sucking. Revel in the power that you have over it. Mmmmmmm. Incidentally, it may seem obvious, but it’s easier to really enjoy giving oral sex if you like the person attached to the penis!
2. Breathe deeply through your nose. This helps prevent gagging.
3. Use the top of the tongue to make friction on the head, pressing it up against the roof of the mouth.
4. Mind your teeth. Keep them retracted and let your tongue and lips do the work.
With these in mind, here is some more general advice.
Very few women can deep-throat. The good news is, it’s not that important.
One of the great things about oral sex is the diversity of sensations you can offer. There is a level of control, which goes way beyond what even the most practised and trained sexual gymnast can offer with penetrative sex.
It isn’t just about sucking. Use your tongue and lick your partner’s cock before you take it into your mouth. Let your saliva flow around it as you lick and suck. Also try gripping his erection tighter with your mouth as you move up and down. Vary your pace, and you can help things along by using your hands in a variety of different ways.
Most men love having their balls stimulated as well. Remember to be careful! Cup them gently in your hands and use the ball of your thumb while you’re giving him head. Alternatively, use your tongue and lips on his scrotum while using your hands on his penis.
Remember what you enjoy about receiving oral sex – and give in kind. Ask him what he likes.
Some people find that it’s best not to have eaten a big meal just beforehand. Could be messy if you have a tendency to gag!
Thirst closes up the back of your throat, so keep a glass of water (or champagne!) handy.
Go for it and enjoy!